Finding Full Freedom in Forgiveness
Forgiveness is one of the most misunderstood and misused truths in the Kingdom. I have literally met hundreds of people who have spent years trying to forgive people. Although their efforts were genuine and their hearts were right, they continued to struggle with bitterness and offense for years. Forgiveness does not mean that you have to feel great about what happened to you; nor does it mean that you have to reconcile with the violating party. Neither does it mean that you ever have to trust a person who violates you. Trust and forgiveness are not the same thing. For example, if a woman is raped in a dark alley, she must forgive the rapist, for otherwise hatred and bitterness will eat her from the inside out. But she never has to be alone with that man again.
Trust is earned through relationship, but forgiveness was purchased by Christ on the cross.